Hi,
It was so difficult for me on Sunday to put on my happy face and go with my family to see Thomas the Tank Engine. My mind was on several things including Julia, John and everyone else touched by her. Since then, my thoughts are with all of you who are grieving her loss. Besides the
online candles for Julia what else could I do. She had a way with her words that I couldn't think I can accomplish. Most days that I'm am writing and not writing on behalf of my kids, I'm speaking from my heart. Julia seemed to speak from her heart with every posting she did.
Her one from May 9th posting entitled "Simply Not Done" speaks volumes. I couldn't write her back...I couldn't see through my tears each time I opened up that particular one. I still can't. Nothing came to my mind when I did try...I hate the way this last chapter ended, Julia and John. Just hate it.
I wished that I could have been eloquent and said something. I don't know if my posts are so eloquent as Margie's Post on Julia and all of the other posts about her that Margie wrote. Judy wrote about the grief as well. It made me think about my losses of loved ones and the losses that my kids, their First Mom, and their Foster Families experienced and still experience. It's well written and you should read it. And reading John's post and this one from John as well is just heart breaking. Be prepared with the tissues for all of them.
If you haven't read Julia's blog read it from the earliest days to now...you'll learn alot from this woman. I know that reading her blog affected me just like going to Korea did in November.
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I know that I've posted about this before but I have to post it again...my labor of love for you, Julia, and all who loved her so much:
If you are not a bone marrow donor please consider doing this.
Read up how the bone marrow donation and Myths and Facts about Bone Marrow Donation is done.
Also head to National Marrow Donor Program Medical Guidelines for the requirements.
Also Race and Ethnicity matter when it comes to donating.
Head to Asians for Miracle Marrow Matches, Asian American Donor Program, Asian and Pacific Islanders Can Save Lives brochure in Korean, and Korean Focus Info on Bone Marrow Donation to learn how you can help.
I learned that 3% of Asian Americans are registered
I learned more that there is a 35-45% of match if your ethnic minority but nearly 85% if you're Caucasian and that is due to more Caucasians being on the donor registry than the ethnic minorities.
I also learned that of the 6.5 million registered bone marrow donors only 50,000 are Korean.
Can you help these people? They need a bone marrow transplant:
Omar
Project Michelle
Theo, a KAD
Pastor Paul Kwon's Story
And that is just the Asians that I know about...how many others are there??
Do you remember reading about these people?
Brian Bauman's Story
Korean Actress Choi Kang-hee's Donation Story.
and that is just a small sampling of what I found.
Julia and John, I did this for you and all of the other Korean adoptees out there. John, it may not be much but it's my gift. I hope that this post inspires others to register to be a bone marrow done and accept when they are called as a match. Please feel free to pass this along to others. And please please please donate since you never know whose life you might be saving. If you aren't in the minority, please consider honoring your children by getting the word out about bone marrow registration, giving money to pay for the testing, volunteering at a bone marrow drive, and more.
~Jen
Tuesday, June 3, 2008
Monday, June 2, 2008
A Day Out with Thomas 2008
Hi,
Mommy and Daddy surprised us yet again with a Day Out With Thomas yesterday afternoon. We arrived at 12:30 pm and ate lunch first. Now the weatherman said that it was only going to rain after 4 pm. BUT they were wrong...
It was drizzling when we arrived and through lunch. We met up with friends of ours and had the 2 pm train ride. With the coaches, you could choose where to sit or stand. If you wanted to sit you sat in the enclosed coaches. If you wanted to stand you stood in the open air coaches.
We took a 25 minute train ride which was wonderful. It was Bella's first train ride and she didn't complain except that she was up in the chunei (the baby carrier I have). We loved the ride. Katie looked like she was an old pro riding the rails. She stood up and mostly refused to hold onto anything. Daddy and Mommy commented that she must have been an regular rider on the Seoul subway!!
After that we did the hay bale maze, pictures with Sir Topham Hatt (well except for Ryan), played in the Imagination Station with the various items in there, had pictures taken with Thomas. Mommy will post pictures on here when she gets a chance.
When Mommy asked us in the car ride on the way back home what we liked most about the day, I responded that I liked riding on Thomas the best. With Katie she said that she liked giving Angie (the friend of ours who came to the Day Out With Thomas with the rest of her family) hugs.
~Ryan and Katie
Mommy and Daddy surprised us yet again with a Day Out With Thomas yesterday afternoon. We arrived at 12:30 pm and ate lunch first. Now the weatherman said that it was only going to rain after 4 pm. BUT they were wrong...
It was drizzling when we arrived and through lunch. We met up with friends of ours and had the 2 pm train ride. With the coaches, you could choose where to sit or stand. If you wanted to sit you sat in the enclosed coaches. If you wanted to stand you stood in the open air coaches.
We took a 25 minute train ride which was wonderful. It was Bella's first train ride and she didn't complain except that she was up in the chunei (the baby carrier I have). We loved the ride. Katie looked like she was an old pro riding the rails. She stood up and mostly refused to hold onto anything. Daddy and Mommy commented that she must have been an regular rider on the Seoul subway!!
After that we did the hay bale maze, pictures with Sir Topham Hatt (well except for Ryan), played in the Imagination Station with the various items in there, had pictures taken with Thomas. Mommy will post pictures on here when she gets a chance.
When Mommy asked us in the car ride on the way back home what we liked most about the day, I responded that I liked riding on Thomas the best. With Katie she said that she liked giving Angie (the friend of ours who came to the Day Out With Thomas with the rest of her family) hugs.
~Ryan and Katie
Sunday, June 1, 2008
The Game of Go Fish
Well we had Katie and Ryan playing Go Fish before dinner last night. It was pretty funny to watch.
The kids don't know enough to keep their hand away from prying eyes and when they had to draw a card, they would announce what card they got. It didn't matter to them if they got a card that they had in their hand or a brand new one. Katie and Ryan would announce with glee that they got Thomas or they got Percy (can you tell that we were playing with a Thomas the Tank Engine deck of cards here???). They were playing for the fun of the game. As for me, I was just trying to teach them the game and the idea (yet again) that they need to take turns and not to cheat.
I filled in for Jeff who was cooking dinner. I got beat by Ryan who won the game. Katie and I came in second. I would like a rematch please when they are a little older.
Bella wanted to play but it was decided that she is too young yet to join the rest of us with this type of game.
~Jen
The kids don't know enough to keep their hand away from prying eyes and when they had to draw a card, they would announce what card they got. It didn't matter to them if they got a card that they had in their hand or a brand new one. Katie and Ryan would announce with glee that they got Thomas or they got Percy (can you tell that we were playing with a Thomas the Tank Engine deck of cards here???). They were playing for the fun of the game. As for me, I was just trying to teach them the game and the idea (yet again) that they need to take turns and not to cheat.
I filled in for Jeff who was cooking dinner. I got beat by Ryan who won the game. Katie and I came in second. I would like a rematch please when they are a little older.
Bella wanted to play but it was decided that she is too young yet to join the rest of us with this type of game.
~Jen
Updated Pictures of Us
Hi,
Well we talked Mommy into posting new pictures here. So enjoy these pictures. But be forewarned...there are more pictures coming!!
Well we talked Mommy into posting new pictures here. So enjoy these pictures. But be forewarned...there are more pictures coming!!
Saturday, May 31, 2008
Saying Goodbye to a Friend that I never met...
I chatted with Julia on one of the adoption boards that I'm on. She emailed me privately on something a couple of months ago. She and I exchanged the addresses to our blogs. She is a woman who was adopted from Korea in 1983. I am a parent to three kids from Korea. I read all of her blog. Her words resounded in my ears and my head. She is a light in the darkness.
I learned tonight that she lost her hard fought battle with cancer. Her last chapter has been read...unfortunately there was no editing like we had hoped. I'm so sorry that I met her so late...I wished that I had gotten to know her better and much sooner. Now her light shines amongst the stars.
Julia, I'm so sorry that we met so late. I hope that I can count you as a friend of mine since you certainly seem like the type of person I would have liked to gotten to know better.
I told Jeff about the loss of Julia. After telling him, I had to see my kids and give them each a hug and a kiss to let them know that they are loved. They were sleeping peacefully during the whole thing.
If you haven't done so already, please register yourself as a bone marrow donor. You never know who's life you may save.
Lighting a candle for you sweet Julia.
With a heavy heart tonight,
~Jen
I learned tonight that she lost her hard fought battle with cancer. Her last chapter has been read...unfortunately there was no editing like we had hoped. I'm so sorry that I met her so late...I wished that I had gotten to know her better and much sooner. Now her light shines amongst the stars.
Julia, I'm so sorry that we met so late. I hope that I can count you as a friend of mine since you certainly seem like the type of person I would have liked to gotten to know better.
I told Jeff about the loss of Julia. After telling him, I had to see my kids and give them each a hug and a kiss to let them know that they are loved. They were sleeping peacefully during the whole thing.
If you haven't done so already, please register yourself as a bone marrow donor. You never know who's life you may save.
Lighting a candle for you sweet Julia.
With a heavy heart tonight,
~Jen
Wednesday, May 28, 2008
Hide and Seek with Ryan
Ryan: I'm going to hide right now
Me: Okay you hide
Ryan: I'm going to hide in my room
Me: Okay you hide in your room and I'll come look for you after I count to 10
Ryan: I'm heading upstairs to hide in my room now (as he heads up the stairs)
Me: (counting to 10 slowly)
Ryan: (toot toot toot from his wooden flute from his room)
Me: Found you sweetie
Ryan: Tomorrow I'm going to hide
Me: Okay where are you going to hide?
Ryan: In my room again
~Jen
Me: Okay you hide
Ryan: I'm going to hide in my room
Me: Okay you hide in your room and I'll come look for you after I count to 10
Ryan: I'm heading upstairs to hide in my room now (as he heads up the stairs)
Me: (counting to 10 slowly)
Ryan: (toot toot toot from his wooden flute from his room)
Me: Found you sweetie
Ryan: Tomorrow I'm going to hide
Me: Okay where are you going to hide?
Ryan: In my room again
~Jen
Monday, May 26, 2008
KAAN Conference 2008
안녕하세요 or Annyong Haseyo to those of you who can't read the hangul!!
This post for those of you who have either adopted from Korea or are Korean adoptees or are touched by one way or another to Korean adoption.
I wanted to tell you about a wonderful conference for Korean adoptees, adoptive parents, social workers and more. It’s called the KAAN (Korean American Adoptee Adoptive Family Network) Conference and their 10th annual conference is being held in Chicago at the Wyndham O’Hare starting July 18th and going to July 20th for more information about the conference go to KAAN Conference Home Page.
They have various sessions going on for the adult adoptees (see KAAN Conference Adult Adoptee Sessions for the young adult adoptees aged 18 to 21 and the adult adoptees over age 21). The kids and teens have their own program while you attend your sessions (see KAAN Conference Kids and Teens Program). It doesn’t matter if you have young kids like I have (4 year old, 2 3/4 year old, and a 15 month old) or older ones or just starting out in the process with a referral since you still will find something to take away from the conference. For me, I loved the sessions on the First Mother and the Q&A with the adult adoptees. This year’s conference looks spectacular again…just check out the schedule for it at KAAN Conference Main Session Schedule. My husband, Jeff, went to the sessions that interested him. It’s a great way for adoptees or parents to network as well I found. You don’t need to sign up for which sessions you want to attend ahead of time which I found to be really nice.
BUT in order to go to this wonderful conference and get it at the reduced registration rate, you need to get your registration in by May 31st. So head to KAAN Conference Registration Form and follow their simple directions. Jeff and I registered for the full conference last year and I’m so glad that we did since we both got something out of it. Please don’t be late, register and attend this conference…you’ll get something out of it. We certainly did. Do you want to know why we went?? Just look at the kids at the top of my blog page...that's why!!
~Jen
This post for those of you who have either adopted from Korea or are Korean adoptees or are touched by one way or another to Korean adoption.
I wanted to tell you about a wonderful conference for Korean adoptees, adoptive parents, social workers and more. It’s called the KAAN (Korean American Adoptee Adoptive Family Network) Conference and their 10th annual conference is being held in Chicago at the Wyndham O’Hare starting July 18th and going to July 20th for more information about the conference go to KAAN Conference Home Page.
They have various sessions going on for the adult adoptees (see KAAN Conference Adult Adoptee Sessions for the young adult adoptees aged 18 to 21 and the adult adoptees over age 21). The kids and teens have their own program while you attend your sessions (see KAAN Conference Kids and Teens Program). It doesn’t matter if you have young kids like I have (4 year old, 2 3/4 year old, and a 15 month old) or older ones or just starting out in the process with a referral since you still will find something to take away from the conference. For me, I loved the sessions on the First Mother and the Q&A with the adult adoptees. This year’s conference looks spectacular again…just check out the schedule for it at KAAN Conference Main Session Schedule. My husband, Jeff, went to the sessions that interested him. It’s a great way for adoptees or parents to network as well I found. You don’t need to sign up for which sessions you want to attend ahead of time which I found to be really nice.
BUT in order to go to this wonderful conference and get it at the reduced registration rate, you need to get your registration in by May 31st. So head to KAAN Conference Registration Form and follow their simple directions. Jeff and I registered for the full conference last year and I’m so glad that we did since we both got something out of it. Please don’t be late, register and attend this conference…you’ll get something out of it. We certainly did. Do you want to know why we went?? Just look at the kids at the top of my blog page...that's why!!
~Jen
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